I have extreme anxiety when it comes to planning and going on a trip.
To ease my anxiety, I tried doing the exact opposite of what I usually do and I planned nothing.
It made me realize that I don’t need to have control in order for things to go well, and thinking that I do is such a huge source of my anxiety.
When it comes to going on vacation, I often feel like my brain is split in two. One part of me is filled with adventure and spontaneous energy; I want to go everywhere, see new things, try exotic foods, and explore whatever comes my way.
The other part of me, the bigger part, is filled with travel anxiety. I worry about the smallest of details from the moment a trip idea comes into my head until the moment the vacation ends. It isn’t until I’m settled in my bed, home safe, that I feel an immense sense of relief. The sad part is that I absolutely love being on vacation and exploring a new place. Because of that, I am always looking for ways to fight my travel anxiety.
I worry about everything
Even though a voice in my head says, “Hey, relax, this is supposed to be fun, not something to stress over!” a louder voice says, “But what if this is the worst trip of your life?” I’m sure that anyone with anxiety can relate to that kind of feeling.
Because I have anxiety, I am a meticulous planner whenever I go away. When I travel with my family and/or my fiance, they know that I’m the one who’s going to do the research, book the tours, find all of the restaurants, and schedule our days. I won’t make reservations or step into a restaurant without first checking out the ratings on both Yelp and Tripadvisor. Once it gets to be 10 days before my vacation, I obsessively watch over the weather for that destination, and my mood will often depend on what the forecast says.
Being that organized has its perks — but the anxiety and pressure that comes along with it is not one of them. I’m not just scheduling things to make sure I see everything; I’m scheduling things to try and feel less anxious. Recently, I began to wonder if I was really doing the exact opposite.
Maybe, I thought, …read more
Source:: Business Insider