Dating after divorce isn’t easy — especially if you’ve never dated in the digital age.
There are many shocks for people reentering the dating world after divorce, from the unspoken rules of dating app etiquette to the sheer size of the online dating pool.
We asked six people who have been divorced what they found most challenging about navigating the modern dating world.
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Dating can be challenging, but dating after divorce can be even more so.
It’s not easy to jump back into the modern world of dating, especially if you met your spouse in the pre-dating app era. If figuring out how to use the apps themselves seems difficult, imagine trying to understand the unspoken rules of romantic interaction that comes with these platforms.
“Going out in the world with a newly defined relationship status of ‘divorced’ can be frightening for many singles, as well as exciting for those who’ve been waiting to start over again,” Julie Spira, founder of Cyber-Dating Expert, told Business Insider.
She said it can be confusing as to when you should start dating or how you should go about doing so: Do you ask to be set up? Meet people at events? Join dating sites and apps?
Spira suggested all of these methods, but said to first make sure to take the time to heal and do things for yourself as a single person. Plus, she said that when you do decide to start dating again, it’s important to be genuine and authentic about your dating goals — whether you’re looking for something casual or a more serious relationship.
Here, eight people share the biggest challenges they faced after they got divorced and entered the modern dating world.
One problem with modern dating is that many dating profiles ‘seemed basically the same.’
After his divorce, Rusty Gaillard, 47, found dating again was made more complicated by the vague nature of online dating profiles.
“As much as I wanted to pick people based on their personality, I found all profiles were basically the same,” he told Business Insider. “I could tell much more about someone based on the kinds of photos they posted than anything. I looked for pictures that expressed some of the person’s personality, doing things they enjoy.”
He met his first post-divorce date for coffee via Match.com and said his goal was to find a potential partner, …read more
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