Dear Amy: I met my boyfriend shortly after separating from my husband of 24 years.
The marriage was good for many years, producing two sons who I love dearly. Eventually I discovered that my husband was living a double life — he’s gay and had numerous homosexual affairs during our marriage. Naturally I was devastated and left the marriage.
My current boyfriend and I have been together for eight years. The last two years haven’t been good. He is hot-tempered, controlling and very disrespectful.
For the last eight months, he has gone over to our next-door neighbor’s house every single day, eight or nine times a day. The neighbor is 41, unemployed and spends all of his time smoking pot and playing video games.
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It’s become a huge problem between us. He says I’m trying to control him.
I don’t want to be in a relationship where I’m disrespected, dismissed and set up on a shelf until he’s ready for me.
I’m ready to leave. I’ve tried talking with him, but he’s only interested in pointing fingers at me. He suggested that we go to couple’s counseling, but I said that unless he’s willing to discuss his issues, counseling won’t work.
He wants to do what he wants, when he wants, and with whom he wants. It sounds like he wants to live as a single man with no accountability to anyone!
What’s your take on this?
Dear Fed Up: My take: All of us want …read more
Source:: The Mercury News