DEAR MISS MANNERS: How do I persuade a dinner guest to please sit down and not insist on cleaning my kitchen after a meal?
It happened again last night. I worked a full day, came home, worked with my spouse to create a nice meal, enjoyed some entertaining dinner company, and then was ready to do some rudimentary cleaning and leave the rest until the next day.
But one of the guests insisted, despite my entreaties, on taking over my sink and cleaning every last dish (very slowly!). I had to stand in the kitchen, attempting to “help” — hard to do when someone else has taken over the sink — while listening to my other guests’ gales of laughter in the living room.
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Really, I can clean the kitchen anytime, but the reason I have guests over is to enjoy their company. I don’t feel I can abandon one of my guests to scrub away in the kitchen while I go sit with the others and enjoy the reason I invited them over in the first place.
Last night my feet were hurting from a full day of work, and by the time I was finally able to go sit, my other guests were getting ready to leave. And that’s to say nothing of the fact that my guest had cleaned things “wrong,” according to my way of doing things (putting good knives in the dishwasher, etc.).
How does one convince a dinner guest that one would really, really rather that they leave the dishes and come join the …read more
Source:: The Mercury News