DEAR HARRIETTE: I hosted a dinner for a relatively small group of people and inadvertently left out two of my friends.
I was busy working and planning at the same time, and it was an honest mistake.
I know they heard about the gathering because we are all friends. I don’t want them to think I intentionally left them out. That’s not true at all.
I hastily organized this gathering and just failed to include them. They didn’t come to mind, perhaps because we hadn’t talked in a few weeks. I can’t really say.
I do, however, want to say something to them because I don’t want them to read anything dramatic into the slight.
How To Apologize
Harriette Cole: When I come to visit, they won’t alter their routine
Harriette Cole: I want to quit my job over this latest disrespect from my co-workers
Harriette Cole: I need to cleanse after the hedonistic summer, but my boyfriend says no
Harriette Cole: I can’t look at my boyfriend the same after this incident in the club
Harriette Cole: I like being my friends’ fixer, but I’m getting stressed out. How do I say no?
DEAR HOW TO APOLOGIZE: Invite those friends to your next event. Consider creating a small gathering that includes them sometime soon. Make sure they feel welcome and at ease. Spending time with them in that way may be enough for them to see that you care about them.
You can also tell them privately that you are sorry you did not include them in the previous event. Make it clear that it was an unfortunate oversight and that you still love them.
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Source:: The Mercury News