Ben Affleck Opens Up About Divorce: My Drinking Drove Jennifer Garner Away

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Among today’s Hollywood A-listers, you’d be hard-pressed to find a more compelloing study in contrasts than Ben Affleck.

The 47-year-old Oscar winner has reached career heights that most actors and directors only dream of.

But fame has come at a steep price, and Affleck’s many falls from grace have been painstakingly documented by the tabloid media.

Affleck’s divorce from Jennifer Garner made headlines in 2015 and 2016, as the couple’s unsuccessful attempts to patch up their relationship gave way to the shared effort to reach an amicable co-parenting arrangement.

The years that followed saw some of Ben’s greatest career successes offset by his most devastating personal failures.

Affleck’s alcoholism was exacerbated by the stress of his separation and media outlets delighted at accounts of the star slurring his words stumbling through parking lots.

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These days, Affleck is promoting his new film, The Way Back, a drama about a alcoholic who finds redemption through coaching a high school basketball team.

As part of his press duties, Affleck has opened up like never before in a remarkably candid interview with The New York Times.

“I drank relatively normally for a long time. What happened was that I started drinking more and more when my marriage was falling apart,” he told the newspaper.

“This was 2015, 2016. My drinking, of course, created more marital problems,” Affleck added.

“The biggest regret of my life is this divorce. Shame is really toxic. There is no positive byproduct of shame. It’s just stewing in a toxic, hideous feeling of low self-worth and self-loathing.”

Ben said that while he’s well aware of his shortcomings, it’s crucial to his recovery that he not fixate on them.

“It’s not particularly healthy for me to obsess over the failures — the relapses — and beat myself upm” he continued.

“I have certainly made mistakes. I have certainly done things that I regret. But you’ve got to pick yourself up, learn from it, learn some more, try to move forward.”

From there, Affleck summarized the addiction mentality in a way that many who have struggled with substance abuse will likely find relatable:

“People with compulsive behavior, and I am one, have this kind of basic discomfort all the time that they’re trying to make go away,” he said.

“You’re trying to make yourself feel better with eating or drinking or sex or gambling or shopping or whatever. But that ends up making your life worse. Then …read more

Source:: The Hollywood Gossip

      

I was skeptical of working with a mortgage broker, so I asked 5 questions to find the right one for me

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When my partner and I were ready to buy a home in a new city earlier this year, our realtor recommended working with a mortgage broker.
We had never worked with one before, and we were skeptical about whether we really needed one. To decide, we met two brokers and asked them a series of questions to see who was a better fit.
First, we asked them, “How are you paid?” Then “What type of loan would work best for us?” and “Can you show us the breakdown for different down payment amounts?” as well as for their hours and whether they offer a rate match.
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Hiring a middle man isn’t something my partner and I normally do.

But that’s really what mortgage brokers, who act as the intermediary between lenders and homebuyers, are: middle men. Knowing that, we had — probably unfairly — stereotyped them to be unnecessary, tacking on extra fees and pushing products (cringe). So when our trusted realtor suggested we work with one to buy a new home in Phoenix, Arizona early this year, we were cautious … and we had a lot of questions.

Knowing that we were moving from out of state and didn’t have any connections, our realtor sent us recommendations for three mortgage brokers who had closed deals quickly and efficiently with previous clients. We investigated their websites and reviews to narrow down the field, and found two of the brokers had consistent positive customer service reviews.

Our realtor set up interviews with those two brokers in his conference room, and I was surprised to find that listening to them before asking our questions gave us both a good idea of who we were better able to connect with.

We asked many questions, but these five helped us make our final decision and put away suspicions about working with a mortgage broker.

1. How are you paid?

Our major concern was the broker fees and transparency throughout the entire loan process. Mortgage brokers typically get paid on closed transactions. Their broker fee is often embedded in the lender loan origination fee. We needed to be sure this fee wasn’t going to be a large chunk of change.

Both brokers first gave the same answer when we initially asked how they are paid, saying we wouldn’t have to pay them for any services. They handle the loan, run the credit, and collect documents without charging us anything.

Pressing a …read more

Source:: Business Insider

      

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